Updated: Feb 1, 2022
Society lies to us.
It tells us that in order to be happy and successful, we must be loud, energetic, and extroverted.
But it’s wrong.
And once you discover that being an introvert is not something that needs to be fixed, something interesting starts to happen.
You start to accept and love yourself more, just the way you are.
This is the moment you truly start to live and stop trying to fit in. You start to work on your strengths and you start to bloom.
Now, when did I discover that being an introvert was not something to be fixed?
After reading the book Quiet by Susan Cain.
In it, I discovered the world of introverts.
I discovered there were millions of people, just like you and me, who were more quiet, more considerate, and more benevolent.
I remember thinking: “Oh, so I’m not the only one who avoids social interactions? I’m not the only one being drained by spending too much time with other people?”
I felt relief.
After a couple of years of self-exploration, I can now say that I have accepted the way I am 100%, as an awesome introvert.😊
I’ve also observed other peaceful and happy introverts along the way and noticed 7 common habits.
I hope you’ll enjoy them!
Habit #1: Happy introverts know themselves and continue to learn about themselves every day.
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” -Aristotle
Like I said before, once you learn about the world of introverts, you start to relax more. You stop trying to be someone else. You start to shine in your own way.
I'm honored to have Maxime Lagacé as our guest blogger this week. I first "met" Maxime through his amazing website. He is full of passion and vigor and his words, his wisdom, and his story are such an inspiration. Enjoy!
One way I’ve learned more about myself and my introversion was by taking an MBTI test. Those tests helped me understand myself, which translated into more inner peace.
Another way that worked truly well for me was by traveling and experimenting with other cultures.
For example, I had the opportunity to study in Hong Kong for 5 months during my bachelor's degree. I needed a good amount of courage to do that but it was worth gold in terms of self-knowledge.
Keep in mind:
when we know ourselves, we don't try to impress others. We simply are. We simply do.
Question to become a happy introvert: How can you learn more about yourself? Could you journal? Meditate? Talk to a psychiatrist? Take online tests?
Habit #2: Happy introverts don't try to "fix" themselves.
“Being weird, independent and loving solitude are not limitations. They are superpowers.”
Once you know and accept yourself more, you start to put your energy in the right places.
● Trying to fit in
● Trying to talk more than others
● Trying to get attention
● Trying to look better than others
● Trying to have more “likes” and “followers” than others
In short, you stop comparing and competing with others.
You stop trying to fix yoursel